Unlike in the past, society is gradually becoming aware of spouse abuse. An abusive spouse can be of either gender, male or female although most often than never it is the men who are the abuser and the women who are the abused. An abusive spouse behaves very differently in a relationship and is a very difficult character to define but a common trait involves both emotional and physical abuse. Verbal ridicule, demeaning their partner and neglect are forms of emotional abuse whilst physical abuse involves physical violence, threats, slapping, shoving and physical assault.
How does an abusive spouse get carried into such a behavioral pattern some wonder? Well, they are motivated by feelings of insecurity and powerlessness providing them with a false sense of control which exaggerates their ego. The end result is jealousy or unhealthy possessiveness which can also be seen as a misguided sense of love. There is certainly a difference between ordinary marital disagreements and cruel verbal, emotional and physical abuse that is sometimes seen by the victims as a marital duty. As always there is an amount of verbal conflict that in unavoidable in a marriage relationship but there are certain boundaries that have to be kept in mind during a marital conflict.
As husband and wife, they are supposed to care, love and respect each other. Treating their partner like a slave and carrying all the weight in a relationship shouldnt be accepted; neither should repression and cruelty in a marriage. Recognizing the issue in an abusive spouse is the first step to being aware in the relationship. Denying the beliefs and intuition of an abusive spouse will only damage your self. Realizing why and how you have allowed your spouse to verbally and emotionally abuse you and have it take control of your relationship. Consider the reasoning behind your surrender to such unjustifiable treatment.
An abusive spouse can have severe effects on family and children as well. People who live with an abusive spouse are generally isolated from friends and family and most often keep to themselves due to their controlling spouses. Children who live in a family with an abusive spouse tend to have problems in academics, behavior, feelings of depression, fear, guilt aggression and irritability. Even children who are not abused by the abusive spouse have the tendency to commit violent crimes and delinquent behavior in the future.
Remember that getting out of an abusive relationship is the right thing for the good of your family and your children.