Do you think you are in a relationship with a verbally abusive man? Here are a few tips to help you find out. Many women who live with verbally abusive men do not know it.
It is important to note that an abusive relationship need not be one where your partner inflicts any physical harm on you. Although domestic violence in this form is the most common type of abuse that we hear of today, verbal abuse can be equally, if not at times, more dangerous than a physically abusive relationship. Often women fail to see the signs in actions of verbally abusive men if he does not hit her.
Keep in mind that there is no assurance that verbally abusive men will not turn into someone who will physically abuse you. As the tension between you and him escalates it could in certain cases lead to him using physical violence against you.
Verbally abusive men will eventually make you feel as if you are worthless and you will suffer both psychologically and emotionally, even if it takes a while for you to admit it. Denial is a common feature in the victim, as often they are made to believe that the partner loves them dearly and is doing certain things for the victims own good. Your self-esteem will plunge as you will be used to constantly hearing insults flung at you and a lot of scorn and sarcasm.
Certain characteristics in verbally abusive men would include him trying to belittle you for the slightest thing.
You should keep in mind that living with verbally abuse men could also have a great impact on your children. As they grow up seeing you being abused by their father time and again, they too may develop various behavioral problems in addition to suffering emotionally because of what they see.
If you are not sure about whether your partner is one of those verbally abusive men, you should visit a counselor and explain your situation and what you are going through. You could also try speaking to people you trust, such as a close friend or other members of your family.
You need to understand that no matter how much you love and care for your partner, the best thing you could do for yourself , is to get out of this relationship. Verbally abusive men will not make it easy for you. They will probably keep tying to make you go back, but you need to stand firm and leave. Tell yourself that you can get through it. Do things that you enjoy doing and keep yourself as busy as possible to stop thinking about him.