Abusive Relationships

Violent relationships aren’t always easy to detect. When in a relationship, the couple may seem perfect together, yet what goes on behind closed doors is another story. There is never a fool proof method to find out whether the person you are having a relationship with will turn violent. There are a few sign posts and warning signs that you should always keep you eyes open for, and if you feel there is a chance you may be getting into a violent relationship then talk to a trusted friend or family member and work on moving away from such a relationship.

One of the most common signs of a possible violent relationship is if the partner is extremely possessive or jealous. This should not be mistaken for love. In a relationship trust and mutual respect are of utmost importance. Constantly calling and checking up on you, not liking you having an close friends or confiding in anyone, going through your email or text messages and discouraging you from spending time with your family are all warning signs of what could lead to a violent relationship.

Another sign of a violent relationship is if your partner keeps putting you down. Physical abusive is easy to identify but emotional abuse is much more complex and tends to leave a much deeper scar. If your partner constantly criticizes you or puts you down, makes jokes which you feel humiliate you or keeps calling you hurtful names, it is important to set back and put a stop to it or get out of the relationship for there is a good chance it could turn violent.

After a violent episode it is possible for the person feel remorse and to apologize and swear that it will never happen again. However genuine the person may seem in their apology, often the relationship gets more violent as time progresses. Therefore if your partner is violence once, chances are he/she will get violent again and it will get worse with time.

Your partner threatens to hurt you, or loved ones or destroy your belongings are all sure signs of a violent relationship. Scaring you or threatening you are signs that are very important for you to take notice of and get out of the relationship before things escalate and it becomes more violent. Also if your partner tends to blame other people as triggers for his/her reactions violent outbursts or manhandles you in a way that scares you, then it is a clear sign of a violent relationship.

If you can identify with any of these signs then it is vital that you talk to a trusted family member, friend or even a counselor. By getting the support you need from different, breaking away from a violent relationship will be easier and reduce the chances of you going back to it.